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Living together: Should you try it before or after the ceremony? Will your family accept this new arrangement or will you need a more traditional route? Now that you will be planning a wedding together it is also the time to start to learn how to plan your life together. Plus, you'll get a chance to view schedules, habits, likes, and dislikes, you still may not have known about. Either way you'll have a lot to adjust to, so give yourselves time. If you and your fiancé have roommates chances are you'll need to look for a new place together. Keep your combined budget in mind and try not to overspend and spread yourselves too thin ( this could cause unneeded stress in an already stressful situation). If neither of you have much furniture you could accumulate inexpensive pieces at thrift stores and garage sales. Ask your parents and grandparents if they have anything they don't need or want anymore. Spend time together refinishing or painting your new thrift treasures. Chores? Who wants to clean the dishes, the dog, the car??? These are legitimate questions worth asking when you decide to cohabitate. Who will pay the bills, do the laundry, clean the toilet? Getting these items nailed down helps ease tensions created by the stereotypical roles we project on our mates. Christine DeLay and Michael Dosa of Silverdale, Washington remedied this situation by establishing who is responsible for what chores and then made a contract for it before they moved in with each other. Christine says they stick to it quite well and that it keeps them from haggling over who does what. Shacking up pre-nup is a great idea because it gives each of you a chance to adjust to the big change in your life, but it isn't for everyone. The best time to do it is once you are engaged. Respect each others opinion when it comes down to cohabitation or not. Whatever you choose to do make sure it is right for you, your fiancé, your parents and your churches belief system.
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