Mother of the Groom

What role do I play in the marriage of my son?

The traditional responsibilities of the Mother of the Groom The following traditional responsibility tips may answer some questions: Intro: 1. After receiving the BIG news, (i.e. the proposal) if you have not already met them, introduce yourself and family to the bride's parents. This can be done by a. A call to the bride’s mother expressing your joy . b. An invitation to an informal dinner at your home or invitation to dinner at your favorite restaurant. Here you will get to know each other and share your joy of the proposed union. Guest List: 2. Provide the bride and groom with your guest list and be sure to keep to the allotted number of invites. a. The list should include the full name, complete mailing address, email address, & phone numbers. (Remember it is important to include salutations and an separate side note by each name of the relationship. This offers a pre-introduction prior to the wedding and a nice gesture) b. Call any of your guests who are late in RSVPing. Lodging: 3. Asist your guests with lodging reservations. a. Check with the bride first before booking lodging, she may have set up a special room block at or near the reception venue. This room block usually offers a special wedding rate. b. You may want to prepare welcome treats for your out of town guest. All dressed up: 4. Shop for the perfect dress. a. Check with the bride on what dress color and style will be appropriate. The Mother of the groom’s dress should not match neither the bride’s, bridesmaids’ nor the mother of the bride dress, but definitely can compliment them all. Let the festivities begin: 5. Attend the bridal shower. (Bring a gift) 6. Host the rehearsal dinner. (The parents of the groom usually host the rehearsal dinner.) a. The entire wedding party should receive an invite and should include an invite for a significant other. Children in the wedding party should be accompinied by their parents. (The Rehearsal Dinner typically occurs following the ceremony rehearsal. You may want to prepare a speech.) Pre Ceremony: 7. It is important to be prepared and on time for the ceremony. a. Check with bride on the time you are expected to arrive at the ceremony. You should expect to be escorted down the aisle by usher at the start of the ceremony. The bride will inform you on who will escort you and how the groom's father will be seated. (Groom’s family and friends will be seated on right hand side and Bride’s family and friends on left) Post Ceremony: 8. After the ceremony you may be asked to stand in the receiving line. Here you will greet guests and introduce your family and friends to the bride, and thank your friends and family for coming. 9. If there's a mother/son dance, dance with your son at the wedding reception. Closing tip: Communication is key and don't forget to have fun