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These days it seems to be pretty rare that ceremonies aren\'t at least
personalized in some form or another!
This can be as simple as just choosing your own readings, and songs
in the traditional ceremony, to creating a ceremony completely
designed, written and choreographed down to the smallest detail.
Most couples feel most comfortable writing or choosing a ceremony
that reflects their own beliefs and feelings. It can even be a way
to bring a couple closer as they discuss and plan their ceremony
together. You aren\'t required by law to use any specific language or
wording, although many clergy do have some guidelines they ask that
you abide by.
Our only real suggestion when we work with brides and grooms is that
they try to avoid creating any sort of tension by bringing up issues that may be touchy or cause guests and family to be uncomfortable.
And certainly, the final decision is left up to you, as to the content.
When designing a ceremony, we feel that there are six basic parts:
The Greeting: that is to say the welcoming of family and guests.
This can be very simple or quite elaborate.
Blessings and Readings: often done by the officiant, or can be done
by friends or family. Sometimes couples read something to each
other at this time.
Your Vows: these are the promises you make to one another. Usually
spoken by us, then repeated by you. Can be read to each other as well.
The Exchange of Rings: either one ring for the bride or a double
ring exchange. Perhaps a story about the rings, or their meaning can
be included.
Music: A song can be included here, while you simply hold hands, or
perhaps light a unity candle, or give roses to the mothers and
grandmothers.
The Pronouncement: The End, as they say in the movies! The kiss
(L O
N G or short!) and the introduction. Many ways to be introduced.
Lots of applause
These parts of your ceremony can be arranged in most any order that
you like. If you would like more information about writing your own
ceremony, we have a complimentary guide that we give to our brides
and grooms as they plan with us for their upcoming wedding
ceremony.
Feel free to contact either Steve or Christine at
858.945.8341 if you have a wedding in your future. We\'d love to be
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